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The Cycle Of Grief
When we experience any kind of devastating loss, whether it is the loss of
a loved one, a dream, or a relationship, feelings may arise within us that
are overwhelming or difficult to cope with. This sense of grief can also
come up when we are separated from anyone or anything we have welcomed into
our lives. And while it may feel like we are caught up in a never-ending
spiral of sadness and emptiness, it is important to remember that the grief
we are feeling is not a permanent state of being. Rather, grief is part of
the process of letting go that in many ways can be a gift, allowing us to
go deeper within ourselves to rediscover the light amidst the seeming
The emotions that accompany any kind of loss can be intense and varied. A
sense of shock or denial is often the first reaction, to be replaced by anger.
Sometimes this anger can be directed at your loved one for "abandoning" you;
at other times you may feel outrage toward the universe for what you are
enduring. And while there are stages of grief that people go through - moving
from denial to anger to bargaining to depression to acceptance - the cycles
of grief often move in spirals, sometimes circling forward and then back
again. You may even experience moments of strength, faith, and laughter in
between. While these emotions seem to come and go sporadically, it is important
to feel them, accept them, and allow them to flow. With time, patience, and
compassion, you will eventually find your center again.
As we move through our grief, we may find ourselves reluctant to release
our pain, fearing we are letting go of who or what we have lost. We may even
regard our movement toward healing as an act of disloyalty or giving up.
Know that while the hurt may fade, the essence of what you had and who you
loved will have already transformed you and forever stay with you. If anything,
once you are ready for the pain of your loss to subside, their memories can
then live more fully within you. Remember, that healing is a part of the
spiraling cycles of grief, and that in letting yourself feel restored again,
you are surrendering to a natural movement that is part of the dance of life.
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The value of a sister
Who doesn't have one
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.
The value of one year:
Ask a student who
Has failed a final exam.
The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.
The value of one month:
Ask a mother who has given birth to apremature baby.
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
The value of one minute:
Ask a person
Who just missed the train, bus or plane.
The value of one-second:
Ask a person
Who has survived an accident.
Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more when you can share it with someone special.
To realize the value of a friend or family member:
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